“YOU ARE A LOT” (AN ADHD PODCAST)
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On this podcast I talk about my relatable experiences with behaviors, thought patterns, and feelings having ADHD. I explain the research of experts in neurodivergence, compiling info for those who don’t know where to begin. ADHD isn’t just about productivity or focus, but a lack of Executive Function which impacts every aspect of our lives including relationships, and even our self-esteem. If you have ADHD or people have often told you, “Um, you’re kind of a lot”– this podcast is for you.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 30:
“MAINTAINING FRIENDSHIPS”
RELEASE DATE: 8/26/2024
In this episode: Jen talks about how ADHD humans can withdraw from friendships due to our “out of sight, out of mind” brains despite loving our friends and gives advice on how we can maintain our friendships.
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SEASON 1 EPISODE 29:
“HYPERFOCUS”
RELEASE DATE: 8/19/2024
In this episode: Jen talks about the pros and cons of hyperfocus. Pro: In a hyperfocus we are working at our optimal ability. Con: Too much hyperfocus and we’re neglecting our basic needs and the needs of people in our lives. Also, Jen talks about why she thinks that “flow” and “hyperfocus” are two different states of being.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 28:
“MISUNDERSTOOD”
RELEASE DATE: 8/12/2024
In this episode: Jen talks about how being an ADHD Human comes with a lot of misunderstandings, from neurotypicals not understanding that ADHD traits aren’t moral failings, to not being able to understand ourselves after being labeled as “lazy” or “rude” for so long, and how ADHD itself is misunderstood even by the people who have this neuro-developmental disorder.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 27:
“INTEREST BASED NERVOUS SYSTEM”
RELEASE DATE: 7/22/2024
In this episode: Jen talks about the concept that ADHD Humans have an “Interest Based Nervous System” as opposed to Neurotypicals who have an “Importance Based Nervous System.” Basically, ADHD Humans are not motivated by the fact that they know that something is important to them or someone else, but they are motivated by their interest in a project or task, the novelty of it all, whether it’s a challenge or creates a competitive feeling and a sense of urgency. ADHD Humans have to figure out their own road map for their brains when they have to make something interesting that they’re not interested in.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 26:
“IS IT ADHD OR ME?”
RELEASE DATE: 7/15/2024
In this episode: Jen answers a listener's email about a philosophical crisis of self. Is our personality, our interests, our attitudes and sense of self just ADHD? How can we tell the difference?
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 25:
“MEAN SELF-TALK & HARSH FEEDBACK”
RELEASE DATE: 6/30/2024
In this episode: Jen answers two listener emails about how to stop with the negative self-talk after failing to complete tasks and feeling overwhelmed, and how (and if) to tell a new boss that you have Rejection Sensitivity and might need future feedback to be more gentle.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 24:
“PROCRASTIVITY & PERFECTIONISM”
RELEASE DATE: 6/24/2024
In this episode: Jen talks about the word “procrastivity” and why ADHD humans love to do every task other than what they set out to work on. And the problem of not even being able to get started due to what’s known as “front end perfectionism” where the entire day goes by and we’ve spent it preparing to do our tasks or work - not by actually preparing anything related, but by “organizing” our space, and “getting ready to get ready. There will be some helpful tips in this episode about how to actually begin your project without procrastivity or perfectionism.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 21:
“OVERSHARING”
RELEASE DATE: 5/20/2024
In this episode: Jen talks about the ADHD Human tendency to overshare by saying “inappropriate” things to people, not knowing we are talking too much or stopping, info dumping on someone, spilling other people’s secrets, saying too much about ourselves even if we didn’t mean to, or over-explaining ourselves and then the subsequent shame hangover after we realize that we overshared. Jen shares tips on how to not overshare in various social situations and how to accept and prep; we are lovable, warm people who will overshare again but we can prep for that inevitability.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 20
“ADHD MEDS SHAMING”
RELEASE DATE: 5/13/2024
In this episode: Jen tells a personal story about her latest attempt to get her ADHD medication prescription filled during this medication shortage and in a timely manner before she had to travel out of the country for work. This attempt included going to a pharmacy miles away and having to show a travel itinerary to prove that she wasn’t lying about needing her medication by a certain date, and refused to fill the prescription in advance for pick-up, instead telling Jen that she needed to get there soon to beat the other ADHD customers who were having their prescriptions filled. You won’t believe this one!
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SEASON 1
EPISODE: 19
“ADHD IN WOMEN & GIRLS”
RELEASE DATE: 4/29/2024
This week: Jen talks about how middle-aged women are being diagnosed with ADHD in higher numbers due to their diagnosis being missed as children. And Jen talks about not realizing that she had ADHD as a child until she read Sari Solden’s book that explains that girls go unnoticed and undiagnosed because their symptoms may not present as hyper-active or inattentive - leading them to become women who are confused and ashamed about why they’re not fulfilling everyone’s expectations - until they get diagnosed and “unmask”.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE: 18
“EARLY ADHD HUMANS KEPT THE SPECIES ALIVE”
RELEASE DATE: 4/22/2024
In this episode: Jen talks about a scientific study published in early 2024 that found that early humans with ADHD-like tendencies (impulsivity, an urge for risk-taking, and an inability to stay still for too long) are a big reason why our species not only survived but developed certain levels of survival intelligence. In hunter-gatherer societies, ADHD brains flourished and evolved as opposed to the modern world where having ADHD is seen as a disadvantage. Jen also talks about the Survivor contestant who was voted off because of her ADHD.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 17:
“THE HISTORY OF ADHD”
RELEASE DATE: 4/8/2024
In this episode: Jen talks about the complex and interesting history of ADHD. The symptoms were recognized as a condition since the 1800s but were seen as a moral failing in children, it was then recognized as a physiological brain problem in children in the 1900s, stimulant medications began to be used as a treatment in the 1960s but by the 1970s there was a backlash, and in the 1990s many organizations and clinicians refused to validate that the emerging diagnosis of adult ADHD even existed.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 16
“ADHD & THE ZEN OF TIME MGMT”
RELEASE DATE: 4/1/2024
In this episode: Jen talks about how there is so much more to time management than actually completing to-do lists, or finding the perfect productivity method. Instead, Jen talks about how when we think we are trying to make a schedule, we may be unconsciously trying to master time itself, which can’t be done. And that deep at the heart of trying to get to ‘inbox zero’ before tackling what actually matters to us, is just a fear of failure and an existential angst about our finite amount of time in life.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 15:
“THE DSM FAILS ADHD”
RELEASE DATE: 3/25/2024
In this episode: Jen talks about how the DSM (The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) is failing people with ADHD because the diagnosis criteria are incomplete. The DSM-5 overemphasizes mythologized symptoms and doesn’t list emotional regulation issues that are at the core of executive dysfunction. This can prevent people with ADHD from being diagnosed and getting the treatment that they need to function in a neurotypical world.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE: 14
“ADHD & ESTROGEN”
RELEASE DATE: 3/11/2024
In this episode: Jen talks about the very real ways that estrogen levels affect ADHD positively and negatively due to the relationship between Estrogen and our executive functions during a menstrual cycle, pregnancy, post-partum depression, peri-menopause, and menopause.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE: 13
“YOU’RE WRONG ABOUT ADHD”
RELEASE DATE: 3/3/2024
In this episode: Jen helps everyone get their facts straight about ADHD and debunks the “alternative facts” that are out there such as ADHD is not a real medical issue, everyone has ADHD, ADHD is overdiagnosed, and taking ADHD medication is dangerous, and addictive.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 12
“ADHD OR NARCISSISM?”
RELEASE DATE: 2/26/2024
In this episode: Jen talks about the similarities on the surface between Narcissistic Personality Disorder and ADHD but breaks down the major differences between the neurological developmental disorder (ADHD) and the personality disorder (NPD).
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 11
“RECOGNITION RESPONSE EUPHORIA (RRE)”
RELEASE DATE: 2/19/2024
This week: Jen talks about the little known flip-side of Rejection Sensitivity known as Recognition Response Euphoria (RRE) coined by Dr. Ned Hallowell. RRE is a euphoric and motivating feeling experienced by an ADHD-er who has been praised or encouraged - and how this is an important part of combating despair and maintaining resilience as a neurodivergent in a neurotypical world.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 10
“RSD: REJECTION SENSITIVITY DYSPHORIA”
RELEASE DATE: 2/5/2024
In this episode: Jen talks about Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria. RSD affects 98% people with ADHD and is an intense emotional response caused by the perception that we’ve disappointed others in our life and will now be rejected, abandoned, unloved as a consequence. Jen talks about how RSD feels in her body and reads lots of comments from her listeners about they experience RSD. This episode will help you feel less alone!
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 9
“TRAUMA & ADHD”
RELEASE DATE: 1/29/2024
This week: Jen talks about scientific studies on the links between ADHD and trauma. ADHD is not caused by childhood trauma but having ADHD in childhood can cause trauma which changes the chemistry of the brain. It’s complex, nuanced, and a great example of “correlation does not equal causation.”
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 8
“EMOTIONAL INTENSITY PT. 2: SOLUTIONS”
RELEASE DATE: 1/22/2024
In this episode: Jen talks and provides some expert methods to handle intense emotions. Topics include - building emotional resiliency, naming feelings, how to interrupt a possible blowup, and working with your ADHD nervous system.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 7
“EMOTIONAL INTENSITY PART 1”
RELEASE DATE: 1/15/2024
In this episode: Jen talks about her personal experience with being emotionally intense and lashing out without understanding what was going on in her brain. Jen explains the science behind the ADHD brain and how/why neurodivergent brains get flooded, experience meltdowns, shutdowns, sadness, low self-esteem, get carried away with emotion and not being able to tolerate feeling many emotions at once. Also explained: how emotions filter through a neurotypical brain and how they get jammed up in a filterless ADHD brain.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 6
“WHAT DO I DO?”
RELEASE DATE 1/8/2024
This week: Jen gives her thoughts on what to do once you think you might have ADHD from how to get a diagnosis, shop for a therapist or psychiatrist or coach, and how to advocate for yourself when supposed professionals aren’t that up-to-speed on the most current ADHD findings.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 5
“NEW YEAR, SAME YOU”
RELEASE DATE: 1/1/2024
In this episode: Jen talks about how New Year’s Resolutions don’t work with her ADHD, gives advice on how NOT to make resolutions, how not to set yourself up to fail, get out of fantasy and accept yourself, and rethinking how to see your year ahead.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 4
“INVISIBLE DISORDER”
RELEASE DATE 12/18/2023
This week: Jen imparts wisdom from her research written by ADHD experts about the ADHD Iceberg, symptoms and types of ADHD, the definition of executive functions, what it looks like for an ADHD person with executive dysfunction, why ADHD is known as the “invisible disorder” and not functioning well in a neurotypical world.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 3
“CANCELING PLANS”
RELEASE DATE 12/11/2023
This week: Jen talks about how she was a chronic plans canceler until she realized that this came from her lack of executive functioning around keeping a schedule and with some simple (but not easy for the ADHD person) readjustments to how she organizes her time - she’s become someone who builds in time for the ADHD collapse ad avoids canceling on friends.
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 2
“WEIRD THINGS”
RELEASE DATE: Monday, December 4th, 2023
In this episode: Jen talks about those weird things that she always thought were personality quirks or flaws but are actually very common ADHD traits like sitting on the floor, re-heating coffee all day long, sitting in strange positions in chairs, an existential dread about laundry, and more!
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SEASON 1
EPISODE 1 “OVERWHELM”
RELEASE DATE: Monday, December 4th, 2023
This week: Jen talks about how the nagging feeling of being overwhelmed brought her to an ADHD diagnosis. Jen also discusses the difference between actually having too much to do and the phantom feeling of being overwhelmed which can’t be solved with a to-do list and how to cope with overwhelm.
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